Green Flags to look for in the early stages of dating (and no, love bombing isn’t one of them)

Let’s be real - most women have been conditioned to look for red flags way more than green ones, and for good reason. After being ghosted, gaslit, breadcrumbed, or love bombed (and don’t even get me started on the Olympic-level mind games), your inner protector gets really good at scanning for danger.

But here’s the thing…
Hyper-fixating on red flags alone keeps you stuck in survival mode, and makes it way harder to recognise real, healthy love when it shows up.

So let’s talk about some green flags to look out for that indicate someone is emotionally available, grounded, and safe to connect with.

Green Flags That Actually Mean Something:

1. They check in and follow through.
   No vague plans or breadcrumb energy here - they say what they mean and back it up with action. You don’t feel confused, you feel considered, which creates a container of safety and respect.
2. You feel comfortable being yourself.

You’re not shrinking, people-pleasing, or filtering your truth to be more “likable”. You feel relaxed, radiant, and seen. The right person won’t make you overthink every message - they’ll make you feel like you can exhale and be yourself.

3. They respect your pace.

Whether it’s physical intimacy or emotional connection, they’re not rushing you. They’re tuned in, not taking your boundaries personally. They’re comfortable with slow, steady growth, not pushing for a relationship milestone by date two.

4. They’re emotionally accountable.

When something goes wrong or gets uncomfortable, they own it.
They don’t deflect, blame, or disappear. They can apologise, reflect, and repair the situation - because they’ve done the inner work (and it shows).

5. You feel energized after being around them.

Not drained, confused, or anxious. You leave your time together feeling more like yourself - not like you're back in your tumultuous situationship era.

6. They’re secure in themselves.

They’re not jealous of your friends, weird about your independence, or trying to control your vibe. They celebrate your wholeness and don’t try to bring you down or dim your light so they can feel better.

7. They ask thoughtful questions.

Not just “what do you do?” but deeper questions like “what lights you up?”. They’re not just there to talk about themselves, they’re genuinely curious about you.

8. Your body feels safe around them.

Your nervous system isn’t in fight-or-flight. You feel grounded, calm, and open. That’s not boring, that’s healthy attachment. And it’s what you deserve.

Here’s the truth:

Real green flags don’t often come with fireworks.
They come with peace, clarity, and a feeling of being met.

So if you’re out here dating and wondering why you keep attracting the “wrong” men - it’s time to look at your own inner programming.

Because the quality of your dating life is never just about the dating pool.
It’s a reflection of your self-worth, your standards, and what you subconsciously believe you deserve.

If you're ready to stop attracting the wrong men and start calling in love that actually feels safe, I invite you to join my FREE Elevated Dating Masterclass where I’ll show you how you can get off the emotional rollercoaster FOR GOOD and into the relationship you’ve been dreaming about. 

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